Last year on my 25th birthday I wrote a blog post on how I felt incomplete.
Last year on my 25th birthday I felt as if I missing something and that I was stuck.
Last year on May 3rd, I was driving to get my hair done and I vividly remember right while I was driving I just started crying. It was a monsoon of emotion. I cried because I was getting one year older and life felt as if it were moving so slow.
It's funny to think how life changes so quickly and you typically don't realize it until one year comes to pass.
I turned 26 a few days ago, and I'm so blessed to be in a different state of mind, with new people I surround myself with and with greater opportunities.
Last year I felt completely stuck because I was (still am for another month) living in Oxford, a small college town with nothing to do. I felt trapped here, confined without a way of getting out (it was a beautiful place to be during my college years, not so much now). It took me meeting Jeremy to realize there is so much more than Oxford and I'm not stuck, I have just allowing myself to think I was trapped.
I felt attached to Oxford because of the all the things I have give up, I felt as though I couldn't leave here until those things I were missing were complete.
My vision was to go to Nashville. I have dreamt of going there since I arrived at Ole Miss. It's funny how God puts you on the path you need to take rather than the path you want to take for yourself. It's remarkable how timing comes into play with all of this. I'm not going to Nashville yet, but where I'm going, I'm just as excited about.
I look back to last year, and I so much has changed. I have changed. I am not the same person I was. I am stronger, I am more passionate. I am more eager. I am over all happier.
I had an idea where I was going to take this post but, it seems I'm guided to write and share this message with you:
No matter where you see yourself in life right now, at this very moment. Next year, you will be somewhere different. Life is constantly changing. We are constantly growing. Allow yourself to open up to that change. Allow yourself to grow. You never are stuck anywhere. That is a complete misconception. Don't allow for your circumstances to tell you what is possible and not possible. Don't let your frame of mind control your actions. You are strong. You are wise. You are powerful. Take control of you and own it.
Most of us are dreamers, we love to spend our moments imagining what life would be like perfectly in our mind and try to manifest those images into reality.
Unfortunately, life sometimes intervenes and we have to take a step back from our perfect vision to deal with life at that moment. That moment can last days, weeks, months or even years. The positive thing is, those moments that test our spirit and soul or just temporary circumstances that have hidden blessings behind them.
Most of us have the wrong perspective of our dreams. We think that they will come to us to easily. That is far from the truth. We also think that if we put in a little effort we will still get our dreams.
That's not going to happen either, sorry.
If you really truly want something and massive change, you have to put in massive action.
No one likes to downgrade anything. If you drive a beautiful car or live in a lovely home you don't want to change it for something else that's not as nice (unless you have you, because you have no other options). We're always looking to meet our set expectations or we're searching for something to exceed our likes. Don't allow yourself to downgrade your dream because you feel it's out of reach. Simply upgrade your daily actions to meet your vision.
Life throws is curve balls and life blesses us.
We must always remember to stay humble when we're blessed, radiant during the struggles and hard time, and rememberable always. We were put on this Earth to leave our mark.
You are important, start your journey to success and finding yourself today!
We're human, obviously, that's a no-brainer. So with being human we have this terrible tendency of being inpatient. I can truly attest to this. I'm so impatient when I set a goal, I want it to be complete, not in that second but very quickly afterwards.
That's a real problem.
I think I'm writing this blog post mostly for myself. That I really need to relax, chill and let time take its toll. I'm also writing this because I feel a lot of us go through this struggle if not on a daily basis maybe weekly or monthly.
So I'll open up a little bit and share some intement details of my life. I'm an entrepreneur and I'm 25, I'll be 26 next month and I'm absolutely dreading it. It's not the fact that I'm getting older that bugs me, it's the fact that I'll be 26 and some of the goals I've planned for my life have not developed or they're just now in the making.
The few things I struggle with is my weight and my business. I want the weight to be off so bad that I want it to be off like yesterday and I don't follow the process... therefore, I get discouraged and it's a terrible merry-go-round to be on. I think I've finally excepted the fact that everything worth having takes time, lots of time. Also, I've realized that there are going to be so many curve balls that come between me and my ultimate goal to ask me how badly I really want it.
Ditto to my business, I want that success over night and I know that it takes time and trail and error before my business grows to work on autopilot. There's always a learning curve, that part sucks. But when you master it, it's so rewarding.
My message for today:
If you've been working really hard and busting your butt in achieving that one thing (or many things) that improves your life, whether it's work related or personal, always trust in the process. There will be curves that you have to surpass and that is okay, don't give up. Let that desire of accomplishing your goals be your driving force.
Also, when things are meant to be for you, they will come with ease. If you've been noticing that what you're working for has too many curve balls and bumps, reconsider if that's for you or if that's what you're truly supposed to be doing.
Never push things, when you push something that isn't intended for you, it always turn out for the worst.
Don't be stubborn and let it go naturally.
Everything will work itself how its supposed to be.
I want to start off by saying I don't know what you do on a daily basis, I don't know what career path you have choosen or where you are in life at this particular moment.
I want to also start with you didn't wake up this morning, April 7, 2017 to live a life of mediocracy. You woke up today to explore your passion and to be driven by your desires.
How you get there is your choice.
In my last blog post I mentioned how I hated being gone from MY blog, from MY goals and from MY desires. I had to put my blog, my goals and my desires aside for what I call hell-ship. I was a level two intern at a public relations firm and I can truthfully say I really disliked my days, weeks and months I was there. But I had to bite my lip and lower my head because my goal was to learn.
It wasn't so much the people but more so the environment of the place. The office ultimately felt cold and just wasn't a good working environment of solely women, who are extremely cliquish (you know they're cliquish when they say they aren't) and some quite judgemental of outsiders and newcomers. I loved the experience I had there because it showed me what I ultimately want out of life. I'm not an employee, I'm an owner. I'm not a follower, I'm a leader, but most importantly, it taught me how to run a business and how not to run a business... how to treat everyone, especially the little-bitty "interns." Some days the owner would come in and not even say a word to the interns. I'm sorry, but that's not okay, you are a business owner, everyone that is in your office should be treated with the same respect as those with slightly higher positions. My time at OPR taught me to value everyones work, it taught me that if someone is calling me an "intern" instead of my name in an email, I don't want to be there. I also realized how some businesses do have success, but remain stagnant in their success because their mindset is so antiquated. That's also not where I want to be. This isn't the era of email and virtual reality, this is the era of total and complete communication across all sectors. Typing less, calling more and learning new ways of interaction.
During the past few months I have felt several emotions, the stronger one was the feeling of being powerless.
I felt powerless because I was living a life I didn't love. Yes, I was living it temporary, but it was still vastly too long. I struggled with the notion of happiness and turned against my desires because I had literally become a walking, breathing zombie. I had been so sucked into someone else's business, I forget about my own business. It was a rabbit hole of turmoil that I had built up and finally is now released.
Earlier I said I had no idea where you are in your career, I don't, but, what I can say is I know how you feel if you are second guessing where you are working. I urge you to follow your gut. If their is a little someone in your head or a funny feeling in your gut, I encourage you to pay attention. Don't stay in a position, at a place you don't love just because you're scared of the unknown.
It has been in my experience that once I let go of fear, I welcome new beginnings. I left OPR Tuesday and three days later I am so much happier, I have more time to enjoy the little things and most importantly, I smile more, worry less and my attitude of positivity has spiked.
I forgot how wonderful the feeling is to go to the grocery store during the day and not on Sunday at 5 p.m. I was in a blissful state of heaven yesterday. When I walked into my local grocery store, I just felt so much gratitude for being there on my own time. It sounds silly, but it was an incredible moment.
It pains me to imagine that there are so many strong, fearless women in this world who are miserable in life because of the career path they have chosen, or that has chosen them. If I'm speaking to you, don't waste any more time, get out of your comfort zone, stop over thinking and just take the plunge, you have no idea where it can lead you. Have faith not only in yourself but in your work and in the unknown.
It has literally pained me to not have been on my site and post anything at all for the last FOUR MONTHS!!
First and foremost, before I start explaining what has been going on in my life, I want to say thank you to all of you amazing, lovely, awesome friends, followers and viewers I have had. Today I finally had the chance to view the stats from the past four months and it was crazy high. Everyone was still coming to my site, still learning, still loving it and that means the world to me. So thank you times a million.
Now, lets get to where I've been for the past FOUR months.
I was stuck in an internship where I had to drive three hours each day. I'd wake up at 5 a.m. and get home at 8:30 p.m. each night to get up and do it all over again, I had no free time but I still managed created a new business, started a brand new online store (launching soon) called MODA BLANC, while also writing my book. None of that would have been possible for the love and support of my sweet boyfriend, Jeremy and my parents.
I want to clarify now, before you say that I'm crazy or insaine for doing so that, 1. I didn't mind (most days) the drive and 2. I ultimately just really needed that experience of that one internship for my new business, and even though $9.00 an hour for 4o hours a week didn't make much sense when you're lo0sing money on gas and car usage, it did make sense to me... but quickly got old and now I'm DONE with that experience and can fully move forward! Praise the good Lord himself, Tuesday was the best day by far.
I won't go into too much detail of my internship at a public relations firm ultimately because I'm saving that for the next blog post that follows this one, but I felt I needed to say why I've been so M.I.A.
Once again, I love all of you and thank you for not only being devoted followers but friends. I don't want you to think y'all are just merely followers, you are sooo much more than that to me.
Stay tuned for my next blog post coming later today on my experience with my internship, Slavery or Saint-ship.
So another year has come and gone and we can all agree that we are ready to see what 2017 has in store for us.
Many of us will be getting engaged, married, having children, starting a new job or career, graduating high school or college. So many exciting challenges and changes.
As the new year start we like to say we have "resolutions" to accomplish. I like the word lifestyle change better. Think of it this way, when you have a resolution you have things you need to change in your everyday lives. Thing you need to add to your days or things you need to take out. That in theory is called a lifestyle change to accomplishing your dreams and goals you have for the year.
Some of us like to say resolution and there is nothing wrong with that. But sometimes we forget to hold ourselves accountable to those resolution. We can all easily hold ourselves accountable to a lifestyle change instead.
What are planning to change in 2017 or to resolve?
Mine are these:
Save more money
Be more vocal about the things I like and dislike
Blog more often
Start Pure Barre and not quit because it's exhausting or I'm sore.
We get so bombarded with little things what we forget to be,
Today, don't forget to be one of these things or all of these things.
For the last few weeks, thing have been a little rocky. I've been tested with obstacles to where I had to go within to find the strength to persevere and overcome these hurdles.
Everything we go through, little or small, is for a purpose. Nothing that comes to us, to challenge us, is in vain.
For the past few years after Ole Miss I have been blessed with amazing opportunities. I got to start the Honeycomb Group, a NPO with one of my very best friends from high school, that grew so quickly we had no idea what to do. I got the opportunity to work on writing my first motivational book (that will hopefully, FINALLY, make its debut this year!), my own consulting business, and obviously my blog, Lifestyles Journey.
It wasn't all roses and peonies though, I'll tell you that much. I had to trust in God's plan and trust in the process of the plan, even if that process meant getting into the most traumatic car accident two days before Thanksgiving.
That experience was also part of the process I had to go through. I was always happy, but I wanted more. I wanted a new car, even though my car was still a new, and a great car I just wanted newer. I wanted I new opportunity where I can have a set schedule of clients and work base. I've always wanted to get dressed really nicely and go into an office. I love working from home, but I love going into an office in the morning and doing something that feels moving to me.
When I got into my accident I thought a lot about time and how timing is so crucial.
Every second counts and matters.
If I had taken longer at Target would I have missed getting into an accident with a deer. If I hadn't of skipped Sephora would I have missed the deer or was the deer meant to hit me and me hit it? That moment in time was not only critical for me but also the deer. It ended its life. Was he|she supposed to die that day at that time? I started to think about all of this and how this was part of the process. I thought to myself "is this what I get for being selfish and wanting a new car, wanting more when I should be content?"
Was it ultimately my fault... no, because there is nothing that is coincidental. That experience was part of the process. Three weeks later, which brings us to this past Monday, December 12,2016 I not only fully got the bigger picture and I finally saw that the process I had undergone the past few years had come to an end... becasue I got the most incredible position I could ask for at a PR firm in Downtown, Memphis, TN and I got a brand new car... on my own.
Nathalie, has finally reached adulthood. Finaly...
At first I didn't see the journey and how this path would lead to to these opportunites I would just see the hurdles, but thats all part of the process.
If you're going through something, I promise you, it's part of the process. You have to trsut and put your faith in the process and the curves it takes you through because like a GPS, it will navigate you to your final destination and where you're supposed to be at and when.
Throughout your traveling path. It will not only be worth it, but it will teach you many things you didn't know about yourself.
It's #faithfulfriday and today it's all about the #faith.
We all go through things. Some more complex than others.
Y'all, having faith is key because today was a day for deliverance just like your day for deliverance is on its way. Stay faithful even during the hard times. If you're having a hard holiday season, don't worry, keep your faith.
You will be rewarded.
I don't know about you, but shopping for the men in your life can be a little challenging. Wheither they are just so picky, or they think they have everything they dont need anything else.
I've come up with the PERFECT for him gift guide that not only will save you time but we will just love to get one of these items!
Have fun shopping ladies!
My ultimate favorite time of the year is Christmas.
I love everything that it stands for, the birth of our Savor, Jesus. The idea that giving is more important than recvieving. How one little gift from your heart can make someone's day or year.
Christmas is more than the presents you have under the tree or the price tag you have to spend.
Here is my Holiday Gift Guide. from from high to low.
These are just ideas you can use yourself as a guide on giving to your lived ones, weither its your mom, sister, best friend, aunt, grandma or even yourself (shhhhh I won't say anything).
*Click picture for link!
Have fun shopping!
I don't know what your weather is like, but here in Oxford it's been clold, rainy and gloomy for the past five days.
I don't know what your day is like or how it's going, if you don't need that extra motivation or if your searching for it and stumbled upon me and my blog. What ever your circumstances are, I'm glad you're here.
"These boots are made for walking,
And that's just what they'll do
One of these days these boots are gonna walk all over you."
One of my favorite ways to acessorise a winter outfit is buy the boots I'm wearing. I LOVE boots. My heart little skips a beat when I see some beautiful boots in the shoe section of a department store. My favorite shoe store hands down has to be Nordstrom, you can't beat there annual sales when everything, usually everything is 40%. I just die... each year. You can't leave out Saks 5th Avenue or Neiman Marcus.
Below I've picked out some of my favorite boots and booties for Fall and Winter and you can find all of these at www.nordstrom.com/shoes
"As I say yes to life, life says yes to me!"
I don't really do personal blog posts much since my niche is more motivating and lifestyle, but I just had to blog to blog today.
I got into an accident last Tuesday, two days before the big ole Turkey Day. I deer ran in the middle of a major highway and as you know, one of the most heaviest travel time is Thanksgiving and Christmas. Of course, I was the only one affected by the deers nature to cross the road looking for food. I don't blame him. But aren't they supposed to be smart animals who can sense danger. HELLO... DANGER!!! YOU"RE NEAR A FREAKING HIGHWAY!!
Needless to say, my car is totaled, thank God for the fact the deer didn't come inside my car that would have been an even major issue, I may not even be here today writing my frustration if that were to have been the case.
I've been without a car for NINE DAYS and I am going CRAZY!! State Farm, who I pay hundreds of dollars to every six months is being so lackadaisical about my car getting it done "on their own time."
THAT'S NOT WHAT I PAY YOU FOR, I PAY YOU TO WORK AND FIX MY CAR, NOT FOR IT TO SIT SOMEWHERE COLLECTING DUST AND HOPEFULLY NOT RUST. Since now it's literally rained almost every day and there was even a tornado sighting yesterday where my car is now. Yippie!
I understand it was a holiday and but you are a HUGE company who doesn't let your employees take off for Thanksgiving, so, if that's the case, then why is my car STILL SITTING THERE. Why nine days later FINALLY, after putting pressure and fire on their behinds is an inspector coming out today?
I feel like I have gone through the 5 stages of grief and I'm on being pissed off now. It's funny how those steps literally work for any major crisis in your life.
I also feel like I stepped back a decade and I'm my 15 year old self who doesn't have a car again, who's relying on others to drive me around and waiting all the time. I can't even take my anger out on the stair climber because I have no car to get to the gym.
Gosh, what did I do to have this happen?
The past nine days I've thought about it a lot, I've thought about time and timing. If I were to have taken longer eating or at Target or driven slower would the deer have passed me or was it meant to hit me?
Time has become so important to me. Just think about time and how a second or one minute changes everything.
If it had hit someone else, would that other person caused a massive destruction on HWY 22? I think about that also. I also think about that damn deer crossing the damn road. Could he have just waited...
All these thoughts. All these emotions. All this built up anger and resentment.
Hopefully my car is fixable. I think that would be the best outcome because at this moment.