I don't know about you, but this is a vicious cycle that resonates with my life. Literally.
I like to think I give many chances and I do, but I also think I can thank a portion of this to being stubborn. Very stubborn.
I was thinking the other day about all of the decisions I've made these past few years... some good, some okay and some just not clearly thinking. If only there was this magical time capsule that could let you go back in time and change something so small that would end up making such a huge impact in your life. Wouldn't it be cool?
I like to think that some people don't fool me. But others have a way of warping your mind and just simply taking it over. I'm not perfect. Most certainly not, I have a ton of flaws but the biggest one I have is giving into people when I shouldn't. I think for me, this vicious cycle starts when I give someone a chance and they do me wrong, so I give them a second chance to redeem themselves. At that point it goes one of two ways.
1. They act and stay the same, therefore I'm finished. For good.
2. They act totally different, therefore, I'm glad I gave them a second chance.
Unfortunately, the second options rarely happens. Leaving you feeling stupid for giving them a second chance.
It's time to break the chain. It's time to end this merry-go-round. Its time to end this vicious cycle.
Once you're done, be done. Because if you don't and keep going back to the the problem its just going to show you later on that that thing or person was never meant for you, and your experience with that thing or person will intensify and the pain or sadness you feel will keep growing and expanding until you finally decided to walk away.
Walking away is painful, but something staying is even more hurtful.