This is something that is really near and dear to my heart that I had to learn and deal with over the past year or so now.
Sometimes we hold others accountable for too much. We give them too much and we except way more from them in return. This goes with friends, family and even relationships.
When we expect too much from others we are setting our own selves into a trap... quite frankly failure.
You except your family to love you. You except for them to take care of you, to help you.
You except your friends to love you. You except for them to take care of you, to help you.
You except your boyfriend/girlfriend to love you. You except for them to take care of you, to help you.
The reality of things is no one is expected to do anything for you. How can you rely and put your complete faith and trust into someone else's hands? You can't. You have to trust and rely on yourself first.
Putting your inner-self, your highest being first letting that be your crutch and your ultimate support. You, yourself will never let you down no matter how hard you try to do so. You may not complete a goal but you will never sacrifice yourself and self depreciate yourself in vein.
Here's a basic example:
Take any type of seed, it can be a flower, vegetable or fruit. If you plant this seed thinking and expecting for it to bloom and blossom your wrong. I know that sounds crazy. It won't bloom without you watering it, feeding it nutrients... basically giving it love and respect. When you do that you are sharing your love and that love has power. It has a vibration to it. We don't see it, but it's there. If you don't do that that seed of whatever sort will give you nothing in return and will eventually wilt and die.
This example is a representation of family, friendships and relationships. You can't go in just expecting for it to blossom. It's not a one way street. You can give your relations love, implementing respect and admiration but if they give you nothing in return it will eventually dry up and die out.
You have to realize that no one is better than you and you are not better than anyone else. What you give out it needs to be received and met fully not halfway.