This is a saying of the ages that couldn't be more true.
What doesn't bring you happiness or joy but instead pain or suffering definitely brings you wisdom.
I was texting a friend of mine the other day and we had this really motivational conversation and he said something along the lines of this, what doesn't bring us happiness brings us wisdom referring to our different family issues.
Everything we go through good or bad, but mostly bad is for our own learning experience and for us to grow as a person. We can't grow in faith or within ourselves if we don't face any inner turmoil or agony. We learn the most about our strengths when we hit rock bottom, sometimes it's good and completely neccasry for us to hit rock bottom so we can have a self discovery moment.
I know since I've been in Oxford or alone I've hit rock bottom a few times whether it was from dating to school to life in general. I would always be so closed minded that I would think it was literally the end of the world as I knew it. Little did I know all those experiences of loosing things would bring me to where and who I am today.
I look back at the past few years and the self transformation I have undergone has been immense. I don't even recognize the girl I was. I always had the potential of being who I am now, but I wouldn't have become even more positive and uplifting if I hadn't had my self doubt moments. The moments where I literally felt that all sides of me were crumbling at my feet.
People look at me and and ask how I am the way I am so positive. They look at me and they are so intimidated because of how I project myself and how I exude self-confidence. Never mistake self-confidence for arrogance. They are completely different and separate. But I am just normal. I am no better than you, you are no better than me. We are all equals. You may have more material items than me or I may have more material items than you, but I would never degrade or make anyone feel less or infer to me. That"s something we all need to learn. You are not defined by what you carry on the outside but rather how you carry yourself within. Material items come and go so fast y'all have no idea. You can have it one day and the next it's gone. Never attach yourself to material things, never give them more value than to someone else.
I've had moments of doubts and self-concious thoughts of my body and someone new and now every special told me that yes, beauty on the outside is important to an extent but true beauty is from within. Those words literally hit me like a bullet because that's what I've been longing, rather searching to hear.
I guess the point of this post is this,
Not everything we do in life will bring us happiness, not everything can and will go right for us. Sometimes what we want to go right the most is the one thing that has to go the worst way for us to truly see who we are.
I propose this, take some time from your day today and just think of all the stuff you wished happened that didn't happen. How that made you feel at that time and how it makes you feel at this very instant. You will see how much you've grown.