Talent only goes so far before hard work has to step in.
You have talents, hidden talents that you have no idea you have until you start to explore them.
Lets think hypothetically at this moment:
You are wanting to be a singer or a model (this is just an example, this goes for many things) and you have a natural born talent of signing and modeling. You can match pitch and sing from your diaphragm like Jessie James Decker. Or maybe just a born model, you have the posture and the perfect walk down to a science, but just because you were born with those natural talents doesn't mean, and quite frankly, doesn't count for much unless you put your talents into even more action.
Talent only goes so far before you have to put work into the equation, yes, I just repeated myself on purpose.
I'm here today to tell you not to settle or get comfortable in your natural talents and abilities.
Push yourself for more.
Push yourself to try harder and be better.
If you aren't constantly pushing yourself, you're allowing someone else to come in and take your place. You're allowing for that someone, who has more courage - more grit and grind to push you out.
Don't allow that, think more of yourself.
You have to celebrate all the small wins in order to keep yourself on track and motivated to continue.
Sometimes we get discouraged that things aren't progressing at the speed that we're hoping.
I'm here today to tell you, don't look at what you haven't done or haven't completed, but rather look at everything you have gotten done up to now.
If you're in the process of losing weight, remind yourself of how far you have come. Look at old pictures and reminise on how dissapointed you were versus how happy you are now that pounds have been shed, even if you have several more to go.
If you're starting a new business, look back at when you just had the thought of being a business owner and fast forward to right now. At that this moment you have more than had a thought but now it's in process of being a reality.
If you're studying for a specific profession, look at when you started the program up to now. Don't picture yourself stuck with more exams, look at your future and where you will be once you complete all the classes and exams.
We are so afraid to live our lives that we don't actually end up living our lives.
We truly live in fear in the sense that we are timid to do the things we love, the true things that will make us the happiest in life.
I'm here to tell you that you need to wake up.
Stop living your life on autopilot and do what you truly love. I'm not telling you to quit your job or move to out of the country. What I am saying is that if you'vee been dreaming about finding a better job, do it. If you're wanting to move, start the process of looking.
Life it truly too short and everyday counts. We all need to release that living is a gift.
We are blessed to wake up each morning to another day. With that being said, we need to live each of our days in complete happiness. What is the point of hoping or wishing for something...
Act on it. Do it. Fight for it, Go get it.
You will not be happy until you make yourself happy by forgetting the world and forgetting those who question you or mock you, just do you.
Wake up today because there is a crazy world out there and it waiting for you to realize it.
The world operates with a lot of distain towards one another.
We see it everywhere on the road, in the store, even at work.
You think to yourself, "how can someone truly be this miserable?"
My answer, I have no idea.
But have you ever heard the expression you get more flies with honey then with vinegar?
I knew Selena had something when she created a song focusing around peoples mood and attitudes.
If you're in a situation where you feel as though you want to scream "get over yourself and your attitude," don't kill them with kindness.
My dad has always taught me to act even sweeter when someone is being so rude to you, so I'm passing that knowledge onto to you today.
My challenge you, if someone you have to deal with on a daily basis is treating you with less respect than you deserve, kill em' with kindness, honey.
I've learned through different things that good things come when you stop questioning and start doing.
I don't really know the direction of this post yet... but I do know one thing – the more you work hard and let go of fear and your thoughts, the better the outcome will be, and the more results you will see from them.
You can't be timid of the unknown. A good friend of mine recently told me, "Nathalie, you aren't a fortune teller. You don't know what will happen tomorrow. You just have to do what you want to do and forget about what happens and you just have to be okay with the outcome. You literally just have to deal."
I know I was meant to listen to that, because it's true. I'm not a fortune teller, and I don't know if you are, but I'm going to guess that you aren't.
Put all your fears to the side and just focus. Don't be scared to jump.
We miss a lot of great things in life and amazing opportunities because we want to be fortune tellers, we want to know if what we're about to do will result into something great. I'm here today to tell you just J U M P.
Forget about hesitation. Forget about what your mind tells you. Forget about what your heart says and just roll with it.
I hope this post helps someone. I felt as if this was the direction of this post.
We learn through experience and a lot of what we know comes from troubling times.
This post isn't about book knowledge, but rather it's about the knowledge of life.
We go through hard times in order for life to teach us what we want and don't want... basically we go through the school of life, where we have to apply our knowledge of past incidences to not make bigger, greater mistakes.
We learn the hardest lesson on – love, money, friendship, our families and lastly, our careers. We go through life trying to win literally at life and sometimes we seriously fail at it.
We learn about love through the mistakes we make with love. We learn through the emotions of happiness and pain. When we feel joy, we want to continue that feeling,
If we learn that we don't like something, we have to learn how to change it, this is in all aspects of our lives, it's not just subject to one.
This knowledge is useless of we don't apply and we will just continue to dig ourselves a deeper hole.
We get caught of in the daily humdrum of our lifestyles, whether its us going to school, working full time, or our families... maybe it's a combination of everything, that we forget to FOCUS on ourselves.
I don't mean that we forget to get our nails done, get a massage or treat ourselves to a girls night.
What I do mean is focusing on ourselves, our inner-self. Mind first, body second.
We have to set aside time for us to focus on our goals,
I'm terrible about this, I go, go, go and forget to focus on what I truly need to do to grow and improve my daily life.
Focusing on yourself isn't selfish. Never let someone call you selfish for making time out of your day to reflect. When you reflect you mind guides you to places and you explore your likes, dislikes and wants on a deeper, more meaningful level.
Set a goal this week to take 10-15 minutes of your day to self-reflect and mediate on yourself.
The past few months have been a surreal whirl-wind.
I finally moved out of Oxford (about time...) which should be a blog post all of its own. Moving is a long, hard process... especially when you just have too much stuff. After a few weeks of unpacking and making very thing "Nathalie approved" I was settled in to my condo in Memphis. The fun didn't stop there, Jeremy and I were Puerto Rico bound.
The trip so fun and memorable.
A little rocky start at the Memphis airport with a strange individual, but that didn't bother us too much, he wasn't on our flight any ways. After a two hour wait at 6:25 a.m. we were Orlando bound.
Bi-passing Orlando, once we arrived in San Juan it just utterly amazing. It wasn't my first time, but for Jeremy it was. He was cultured shocked, to say the least. Everything is in Spanish. Everything. Luckily for him, he had his own personal translator. The hotel was beautiful, El San Juan... my jaw just dropped when we walked in. Huge chandeliers, columns, stages for bands, beautifully decorated all wood. The word Plush just doesn't do it justice. I felt as if I was stepping back into may the 50's with everything being dark mahogany and just rich.
We didn't have a beach view, but the city view we had with the mountains, might have been as, or even more breath taking than the beach. Jeremy's best friend, Jake and his wife came with us on the trip, and we all knew the first thing that we were going to do was go to the beach.
The first and second day went by slow, I think we were all shocked that an idea of going to Puerto Rico in December, became reality in June... or maybe it was just me that was shocked. I never traveled with a boyfriend before, of course we've been to Gatlinburg, Knoxville, Nashville and Huntsville, but to me, I was still flabbergasted that I was at a beach, that wasn't Destin with my boyfriend.
Our first day was of course spent by the pool and beach.
On our second day, Jeremy and I went to get breakfast at the Cafecito bar in the main lobby, we looked at each other and looked outside. We both knew what we wanted and that was to explore the Island.
He headed back to the room and called our friends that we were taking the day to explore. That what you do when you're in a new place, you explore. We quickly got dressed, packed an extra set of clothes since we knew we would end up at another beach and we made it to Hertz. After 20 minutes we were off in our little blue Mitsubishi!
Our first stop, El Yunque! I told Jeremy that the two things I wanted from Puerto Rico was a lot of Mofungo (smashes plantains with any kind of meat) and to drink out of a real coconut. When We say the first little hut driving up the mountain of El Yunque, I told Jeremy we had to stop, that I NEEDED the coconut. Of course, at that moment it sounded a little more dramatic that how it was just read. We travel the forest until we could no longer travel it, stopping at every waterfall and at the tower. It was utterly beautiful. It was a cloudy say with a lot of overcast, but it was still beautiful and magical.
Our next stop, eat real, authentic Puerto Rican food, from a little small town in Cayey. It was the authenticity my mouth had been watering for since we landed. You know the place is legit when you see a whole pig roasting in the front window. Needless to say it was delicious. I had lechon, with yucca and Jeremy had lechon with Spanish rice.
After lunch we were headed to Gilligan's Island. We passed the mountains, what seems to be a desert, Ponce and several other cities on our way to Guanica.
Guanica is on the Caribbean side of the island so the color of the water is as breathtaking as Destin, or even more so. One thing that was different, the sand was made of little small rocks, not actual grains of sand and the water was extremely choppy with a lit of shore rocks. We didn't care that the water had been dirty from the after math of tropical storm Cindy, we were just happy to have made it our final destination of the day.
We rushed for parking and rushed to get in the water, precious daylight was being wasted by perusing. We weren't even in the water for 10 minutes when a massive way came and took me under... then another one... needless to say, I was done at that point because when I finally came to, I had blood gushing down my leg and foot, the rocks and smalls pebbles of the sand scrapped my knee and ankle in three different places.
Thank to my sweet Jeremy, he took care of me and held my hand while I whaled in pain. It wasn't even a slight cry it was a full little girl getting hurt for the first time cry. Not pretty.. at all... after that we left, went to the store to get first aid things and head back to the hotel.
In Puerto Rico, it's a legit thing to see wild horses in the middle of the street. By a gas station where we pumped gas, there was a family of three. Three beautiful wild horses just chilling on the road reading grass. It was both beautiful but disturbing. They horses, do they not have a home? Do they not have shelter? Do they not have owners?
Day three and four were spent at the beach and at Old San Juan reminiscing on Monday's tour of the island and day five we were traveling back home. I was ready to leave, but not ready to get home.
I'm very blessed to have gone on this amazing trip with Jeremy and friends. I'm back home and it's still surreal that we waited so long for that trip, and it came and went in a flash.
If you're planning on going to San Juan soon, I highly recommend that you say at El San Juan, it is their Hilton Resort and our stay was just fabulous.
Last year on my 25th birthday I wrote a blog post on how I felt incomplete.
Last year on my 25th birthday I felt as if I missing something and that I was stuck.
Last year on May 3rd, I was driving to get my hair done and I vividly remember right while I was driving I just started crying. It was a monsoon of emotion. I cried because I was getting one year older and life felt as if it were moving so slow.
It's funny to think how life changes so quickly and you typically don't realize it until one year comes to pass.
I turned 26 a few days ago, and I'm so blessed to be in a different state of mind, with new people I surround myself with and with greater opportunities.
Last year I felt completely stuck because I was (still am for another month) living in Oxford, a small college town with nothing to do. I felt trapped here, confined without a way of getting out (it was a beautiful place to be during my college years, not so much now). It took me meeting Jeremy to realize there is so much more than Oxford and I'm not stuck, I have just allowing myself to think I was trapped.
I felt attached to Oxford because of the all the things I have give up, I felt as though I couldn't leave here until those things I were missing were complete.
My vision was to go to Nashville. I have dreamt of going there since I arrived at Ole Miss. It's funny how God puts you on the path you need to take rather than the path you want to take for yourself. It's remarkable how timing comes into play with all of this. I'm not going to Nashville yet, but where I'm going, I'm just as excited about.
I look back to last year, and I so much has changed. I have changed. I am not the same person I was. I am stronger, I am more passionate. I am more eager. I am over all happier.
I had an idea where I was going to take this post but, it seems I'm guided to write and share this message with you:
No matter where you see yourself in life right now, at this very moment. Next year, you will be somewhere different. Life is constantly changing. We are constantly growing. Allow yourself to open up to that change. Allow yourself to grow. You never are stuck anywhere. That is a complete misconception. Don't allow for your circumstances to tell you what is possible and not possible. Don't let your frame of mind control your actions. You are strong. You are wise. You are powerful. Take control of you and own it.
Most of us are dreamers, we love to spend our moments imagining what life would be like perfectly in our mind and try to manifest those images into reality.
Unfortunately, life sometimes intervenes and we have to take a step back from our perfect vision to deal with life at that moment. That moment can last days, weeks, months or even years. The positive thing is, those moments that test our spirit and soul or just temporary circumstances that have hidden blessings behind them.
Most of us have the wrong perspective of our dreams. We think that they will come to us to easily. That is far from the truth. We also think that if we put in a little effort we will still get our dreams.
That's not going to happen either, sorry.
If you really truly want something and massive change, you have to put in massive action.
No one likes to downgrade anything. If you drive a beautiful car or live in a lovely home you don't want to change it for something else that's not as nice (unless you have you, because you have no other options). We're always looking to meet our set expectations or we're searching for something to exceed our likes. Don't allow yourself to downgrade your dream because you feel it's out of reach. Simply upgrade your daily actions to meet your vision.
Life throws is curve balls and life blesses us.
We must always remember to stay humble when we're blessed, radiant during the struggles and hard time, and rememberable always. We were put on this Earth to leave our mark.
You are important, start your journey to success and finding yourself today!
We're human, obviously, that's a no-brainer. So with being human we have this terrible tendency of being inpatient. I can truly attest to this. I'm so impatient when I set a goal, I want it to be complete, not in that second but very quickly afterwards.
That's a real problem.
I think I'm writing this blog post mostly for myself. That I really need to relax, chill and let time take its toll. I'm also writing this because I feel a lot of us go through this struggle if not on a daily basis maybe weekly or monthly.
So I'll open up a little bit and share some intement details of my life. I'm an entrepreneur and I'm 25, I'll be 26 next month and I'm absolutely dreading it. It's not the fact that I'm getting older that bugs me, it's the fact that I'll be 26 and some of the goals I've planned for my life have not developed or they're just now in the making.
The few things I struggle with is my weight and my business. I want the weight to be off so bad that I want it to be off like yesterday and I don't follow the process... therefore, I get discouraged and it's a terrible merry-go-round to be on. I think I've finally excepted the fact that everything worth having takes time, lots of time. Also, I've realized that there are going to be so many curve balls that come between me and my ultimate goal to ask me how badly I really want it.
Ditto to my business, I want that success over night and I know that it takes time and trail and error before my business grows to work on autopilot. There's always a learning curve, that part sucks. But when you master it, it's so rewarding.
My message for today:
If you've been working really hard and busting your butt in achieving that one thing (or many things) that improves your life, whether it's work related or personal, always trust in the process. There will be curves that you have to surpass and that is okay, don't give up. Let that desire of accomplishing your goals be your driving force.
Also, when things are meant to be for you, they will come with ease. If you've been noticing that what you're working for has too many curve balls and bumps, reconsider if that's for you or if that's what you're truly supposed to be doing.
Never push things, when you push something that isn't intended for you, it always turn out for the worst.
Don't be stubborn and let it go naturally.
Everything will work itself how its supposed to be.
I want to start off by saying I don't know what you do on a daily basis, I don't know what career path you have choosen or where you are in life at this particular moment.
I want to also start with you didn't wake up this morning, April 7, 2017 to live a life of mediocracy. You woke up today to explore your passion and to be driven by your desires.
How you get there is your choice.
In my last blog post I mentioned how I hated being gone from MY blog, from MY goals and from MY desires. I had to put my blog, my goals and my desires aside for what I call hell-ship. I was a level two intern at a public relations firm and I can truthfully say I really disliked my days, weeks and months I was there. But I had to bite my lip and lower my head because my goal was to learn.
It wasn't so much the people but more so the environment of the place. The office ultimately felt cold and just wasn't a good working environment of solely women, who are extremely cliquish (you know they're cliquish when they say they aren't) and some quite judgemental of outsiders and newcomers. I loved the experience I had there because it showed me what I ultimately want out of life. I'm not an employee, I'm an owner. I'm not a follower, I'm a leader, but most importantly, it taught me how to run a business and how not to run a business... how to treat everyone, especially the little-bitty "interns." Some days the owner would come in and not even say a word to the interns. I'm sorry, but that's not okay, you are a business owner, everyone that is in your office should be treated with the same respect as those with slightly higher positions. My time at OPR taught me to value everyones work, it taught me that if someone is calling me an "intern" instead of my name in an email, I don't want to be there. I also realized how some businesses do have success, but remain stagnant in their success because their mindset is so antiquated. That's also not where I want to be. This isn't the era of email and virtual reality, this is the era of total and complete communication across all sectors. Typing less, calling more and learning new ways of interaction.
During the past few months I have felt several emotions, the stronger one was the feeling of being powerless.
I felt powerless because I was living a life I didn't love. Yes, I was living it temporary, but it was still vastly too long. I struggled with the notion of happiness and turned against my desires because I had literally become a walking, breathing zombie. I had been so sucked into someone else's business, I forget about my own business. It was a rabbit hole of turmoil that I had built up and finally is now released.
Earlier I said I had no idea where you are in your career, I don't, but, what I can say is I know how you feel if you are second guessing where you are working. I urge you to follow your gut. If their is a little someone in your head or a funny feeling in your gut, I encourage you to pay attention. Don't stay in a position, at a place you don't love just because you're scared of the unknown.
It has been in my experience that once I let go of fear, I welcome new beginnings. I left OPR Tuesday and three days later I am so much happier, I have more time to enjoy the little things and most importantly, I smile more, worry less and my attitude of positivity has spiked.
I forgot how wonderful the feeling is to go to the grocery store during the day and not on Sunday at 5 p.m. I was in a blissful state of heaven yesterday. When I walked into my local grocery store, I just felt so much gratitude for being there on my own time. It sounds silly, but it was an incredible moment.
It pains me to imagine that there are so many strong, fearless women in this world who are miserable in life because of the career path they have chosen, or that has chosen them. If I'm speaking to you, don't waste any more time, get out of your comfort zone, stop over thinking and just take the plunge, you have no idea where it can lead you. Have faith not only in yourself but in your work and in the unknown.
It has literally pained me to not have been on my site and post anything at all for the last FOUR MONTHS!!
First and foremost, before I start explaining what has been going on in my life, I want to say thank you to all of you amazing, lovely, awesome friends, followers and viewers I have had. Today I finally had the chance to view the stats from the past four months and it was crazy high. Everyone was still coming to my site, still learning, still loving it and that means the world to me. So thank you times a million.
Now, lets get to where I've been for the past FOUR months.
I was stuck in an internship where I had to drive three hours each day. I'd wake up at 5 a.m. and get home at 8:30 p.m. each night to get up and do it all over again, I had no free time but I still managed created a new business, started a brand new online store (launching soon) called MODA BLANC, while also writing my book. None of that would have been possible for the love and support of my sweet boyfriend, Jeremy and my parents.
I want to clarify now, before you say that I'm crazy or insaine for doing so that, 1. I didn't mind (most days) the drive and 2. I ultimately just really needed that experience of that one internship for my new business, and even though $9.00 an hour for 4o hours a week didn't make much sense when you're lo0sing money on gas and car usage, it did make sense to me... but quickly got old and now I'm DONE with that experience and can fully move forward! Praise the good Lord himself, Tuesday was the best day by far.
I won't go into too much detail of my internship at a public relations firm ultimately because I'm saving that for the next blog post that follows this one, but I felt I needed to say why I've been so M.I.A.
Once again, I love all of you and thank you for not only being devoted followers but friends. I don't want you to think y'all are just merely followers, you are sooo much more than that to me.
Stay tuned for my next blog post coming later today on my experience with my internship, Slavery or Saint-ship.
So another year has come and gone and we can all agree that we are ready to see what 2017 has in store for us.
Many of us will be getting engaged, married, having children, starting a new job or career, graduating high school or college. So many exciting challenges and changes.
As the new year start we like to say we have "resolutions" to accomplish. I like the word lifestyle change better. Think of it this way, when you have a resolution you have things you need to change in your everyday lives. Thing you need to add to your days or things you need to take out. That in theory is called a lifestyle change to accomplishing your dreams and goals you have for the year.
Some of us like to say resolution and there is nothing wrong with that. But sometimes we forget to hold ourselves accountable to those resolution. We can all easily hold ourselves accountable to a lifestyle change instead.
What are planning to change in 2017 or to resolve?
Mine are these:
Save more money
Be more vocal about the things I like and dislike
Blog more often
Start Pure Barre and not quit because it's exhausting or I'm sore.